I have been thinking about this for a long time, and I really think it's time
for me to talk about it:
Sometimes, we define things merely based on how they suit our agenda. Why do a
lot of people speak of abuse only from the perspective of violence against
When you beat your wife (for whatever reason), it is abuse. When
you disrespect/dishonor your husband (for whatever reason), it is abuse. Note here, that if
you say that some men deserve the disrespect they get, then it just might
follow that some women deserve the beating they receive.
When you punish your children for the wrong reasons it is abuse.
When you chose money and fame over your family, pretending you are doing it for
them when you know that you are indeed gratifying your ambitious and vain
desires, it is abuse.
When you dishonor your parents, it is abuse. When you intimidate
your parents and bend them over to your whims and caprices because of the
comfort you provide them, it is abuse.
When you maltreat your house-help because you are irritated by
her background or because you feel she doesn't deserve any better, it is abuse.
When you make your house-help do all the work even though you have grown up
children who can help out around the house, it is abuse. When you feel your 15
year old child deserves to be in bed by 10pm, while your 10 year old house-help
stays up till 1am doing house chores (necessary or not) merely because you are
paying her, it is abuse. When you will not give your house-help a moments
peace, merely because of your paranoiac insecurity (that your husband has his
eyes on her), it is abuse. When you want to sleep with your house-help anytime
your wife/husband is not around, it is abuse.
When you make the young people in your church do things you
wouldn't let your own children do, it is abuse. When you harass them with
commitment messages and nuggets, when you know you should advice them never to
skip class (while your own children are busy getting the best education), it is
When you refuse to give your husband/wife sex, or use sex as
bargaining power or an ace for control, it is abuse. When you ignore your
wife/husband even when you know he/she needs you and is making sense, it is
abuse. Man or woman, when all you remember and want to talk about are the bad
sides of the people that love you, it is abuse.
When you are unforgiven, stuck up, unnecessarily talkative and
stuck to your position, it is abuse. When you feel that only the rich people
around you deserve respect, you have abused the poor ones. Anytime you hurt
people for the wrong reasons, you have abused them.
Have you abused anyone lately? WASH THE INSIDE, AND THE
OUTSIDE WILL BE CLEAN.