What would you advice?

Hello people,

I stumbled into a new blog and read a story that got me thinking. Unfortunately, I could not follow the blog and I have forgotten the link, so I cannot bring it on here or refer to it. But he story as far as I can remember goes like this...

A couple before they finally got married were dating for a while and during those times of dating, the lady had three abortions and was even warned by a doctor not to try another one as anything of that sort was going to result in childlessness in the future because her womb had become weak.

Now it so happened that on the night after her wedding, she was raped by armed robbers right in front of the husband and after the heartless act, they stole from the couple as well. As a result of that incident, the man could not bring himself to having any form of physical contact with his wife.

It so happened that, the lady got pregnant because of the rape and the husband wants her to abort the  pregnancy or consider the marriage dissolved. The wife on the other end is scared of becoming childless if she dares the abortion and yet, is also afraid of loosing her husband (serious delima if you ask me).

She is confused and needs an advice. The husband on the other hand, is equally in a hard place because he does not want to have anything to do with a baby he terms a "bastard" and a reminder of a painful past.

What would you advice in such a situation? Should the man try to forget about the rape incident and just let it go for the safety of the lady and because of the love he has for her? Should the lady on the other hand, throw caution to the wind and get "rid" of the pregnancy in order to sustain her marriage? Or should she  keep the pregnancy at the risk of divorcing her husband and also keep hope alive since no one knows tomorrow?

What if she goes ahead to abort the baby and the husband  still goes ahead to divorce her anyways with the excuse that, because another man (an armed robber for that matter) has slept with her, he can't continue in the marriage?

Well I suggested that, although it is a difficult situation and a sensitive one for that matter, the husband should try and let it go for the sake of his wife's health and also for the sake of  the love  they share ( that is if he still loves her and is ready to fight with her). Should divorce even be an option in this circumstance (Pastors, counselors and anyone knowledgeable in this area, this question is for you)?

Pheeeeeeeew.... This armed robbers sef! May God help and protect us all from their hands. May they never see us even when they are close, Amen

Peace... I'm out!

Is it Possible? Could it ever happen?

Hi everyone!

I am super excited this morning the reason being that, I have been believing God for something and I got it today! A miracle I would call it!!! I am so grateful to God.

Well, there was an interesting topic that was discussed yesterday during my Media Law and Ethics class. I think it is a controversial subject so I thought of bringing it on here so we continue the discussion right from here...

Law is as dynamic as society. There used to be a time when rape was established by the actual act of penetration and the examination of the alleged victim to see if there are bruises... (I talk am as I understand o!). Now, rape is defined as a situation where a man has carnal knowledge of a woman without her consent.

This discussion on rape, stirred up a controversy when as all encompassing  as it sounded, it almost exposed the status of the welfare of marriages; as the men and the women in my class became divided on a particular question judging "on the surface" from this new definition.

The question was "Can a man rape his wife?" Really... Can a man rape his own wife? Sounds weird, right? Almost all the ladies (including myself) said yes, whilst the men argued that its not possible because they paid the bride price of the woman and so for that matter own her body.

Which of the view points or schools of thought do you agree with?

This is a serious matter o! How should it be? Were the women taking it too far, or do you think the men were being selfish and insensitive? I am open to learn your thoughts on this issue, and I promise I will share it with my colleagues and lecturer next week. Thanks a lot. *Wink*

Peace... I'm out.

   

 

In all things...

Hello there!

How is everyone doing? I read what I am about to share with you now in my devotional book. I loved it to bits and so I thought about you and decided to share. Please read and do not hesitate to share your thoughts.

I asked God for strength that I might achieve.

I was made weak, that I might learn humbly to obey....

I asked for health, that I might do greater things.

I was given infirmity, that I might do better things

I asked for riches, that I might be happy 

I was given poverty, that I might be wise

I asked for power, that I might have the praise of men.

I was given weakness, that I might feel the need for God.

I asked for all things, that I might enjoy all things 

I got nothing I asked for... but everything I had hoped for.

Even when our prayers are not answered in the way we plan or expect, God is always up to something.  He knows the end from the beginning and does what He knows is best for us at the end. Let's hold on and not loose faith. 

Thanks for all the wonderful comments on my last post. And as for you! toinlicious, you are in trouble with me o! For calling my gele that I suffered to tie, a bag lol. 

Before I sign out, I need help on something, I am unable to follow new blogs I have discovered. Goggle is playing tricks on me. When I click on the follow button I get funny options that do not allow me to follow the blogs. I need HELP fast. Thanks.

Peace... I'm out

Sometimes...

Hello Everyone!

Been a while since I posted any kind of pictures on my blog so today, I have decided to do just that! the title of this post is due to some of the things I do in front of the camera. Enjoy...

Sometimes, I tie gele to see how my face looks like..... what do you think?

Sometimes... When people are dancing azonto (which happens to be the new craze in the Ghanaian society when it comes to dancing) I just watch and take photo shots of them.

Sometimes too... when I got nothing much to do, I just smile and pose in front of the camera.

Other times... I love to watch my son take a picture with Santa Claus!

Oh! did I tell you I love to hang out? Yea... Sometimes that is what I do. hanging out with friends.

And finally... Sometimes, I love to share my cute smile with the camera and you!.

 

Hope you had fun watching the pictures. There's nothing much going on with me now, other than work, home and now back to school.

I am looking forward to a lot of exciting stuff ahead for me, my life and everything that concerns me; so far as God is still God, I know I am not alone. 

Best wishes dearies...

Peace... I'm out!

Laugh A Little

Hello everyone, 

Its always a pleasure coming your way with my posts. Yesterday the 6th of March was Ghana's 55th Independence day celebration and for that matter, it was a holiday. I love holidays mehn!!! I had fun, I enjoyed myself and I had some rest too.

I got a joke I want  to share with you. This joke brought a broad smile to my face and I hope it does the same to you too. Enjoy. :-)

Three pastors met and agreed to sincerely tell one another their problems which must be kept a secret among themselves and also to enable them remember one other in prayers.

The 1st pastor said: My problem is money. I even steal from the Church Offering most times. Please brethren pray for me....

The 2nd pastor said: My problem is Women. Whenever I see a woman (no matter what she looks like) my desire will be to go to bed with her. He pleaded with his friends to please pray for as well

Turning to the third pastor to hear his problem, the other two pastors noticed that their friend and colleague had started crying, and in a short while, he was so uncontrollable that it took the other two pastors some effort to calm him. After that, he was asked to go ahead and share his problem and he said (still sobbing) "My problem is gossiping... You, my brothers need to pray for me seriously o! Because by the time we leave this place, everybody will hear what you two have said here" *Wahala* No! *Mega-wahala!!!*

What will you do to the gossip-pastor-friend if you were the first or second pastor? lol

Enjoy the rest of the week dearies! Best wishes.

Peace... I'm out

DO YOU KNOW?

my people!

How una dey? trust the weekend went well for everyone and this new week and month is going to be more fruitful than the previous one. I have been reading a lot of Tyler Perry's works lately and I must say I am inspired by a lot of his works. Please read this, think about it and share your thoughts. Enjoy...

Here it goes... "On to the reason I’m writing. A few days ago, I was in the car on my way to set when we stopped at a red light. I looked up from my script and saw a father walking across the street holding his son’s hand. The child couldn’t have been more then 2 or 3years old, this kid was giddy with joy. I watched this man and his son go into the park and start running and playing. The light changed and as we drove away, I turned around in the back seat to watch them until they were out of sight. My eyes filled with water, I thought to myself, this is really a strange reaction. I was thinking, why did I have such a strong emotional reaction to this father and son? It didn’t take long for me to realize that it was because I never had those kind of experiences, never knew that kind of unconditional joy, never knew what it felt like to be wanted and adored as a child.

Which made me think of this question. I wonder if the man I called 'Daddy' as a child, knew then what he knows now, would he have treated me any differently? If he had known, the little boy that depended on him for food and shelter would grow up to be a man that he would have to depend on for food and shelter, would he have made different choices? I realized that my emotion to that moment was about this man loving his child in the purest sense. No matter what the future holds for that little boy, he will always have that moment with his daddy loving him, for him.

There is an old song written by the Gaither’s called, MARY, DID YOU KNOW? It’s a beautiful song asking Mary, the mother of Jesus, the question, “Did you know that her baby boy would come to save the world?” The lyrics go on to ask, “Mary did you know that when you kissed the little baby, you kissed the face of God?” My favorite lyric is this one, “Mary, did you know that the child that you delivered will soon deliver you?” That last line makes me think of my own mother. Before she died she often said to me that she had no idea that her little baby boy would be able to take care of her the way I did. I get so much joy knowing that I could and I did. That lets me sleep at night. Mom, I thank you! You helped me be able to do that. God bless you!

I want to leave you with these questions. It’s for every parent, the good and the bad. DO YOU KNOW who is in your house? DO YOU KNOW whom you're raising, and will the child that you delivered, have to deliver you in your old age? Think about it, and know that when you kiss that innocent face of your child, you kiss the face of God."

If a child would turn out good or bad, it depends on the kind of foundation he or she has had... so the bible puts it this way "train up a child the way that he should go so that when he/she grows, they will not depart from it". Our lives and lifestyles impact on the lives and lifestyles of the children around us (whether ours or other people's)

I pray we all bring up our kids in the way of the Lord so that in our old age, they will be there for us when we need them. I pray we impact them positively, so that when they grow up they can impact society positively. I pray we all do well for our children, and all the children around us. It takes a society to raise a child.

Peace... I'm out.