Been thinking about something and I can't help but share it on here. Recently, a friend of mine lost her cousin... She died after giving birth to a set of twins (two beautiful girls).
Anyway, after the funeral and all, family members committed to give their support to the father and the granny in catering for and raising the twins. However, it hasn't even been 2months since the death and burial of this lady, and everybody has forgotten about these children. I feel that way because, I don't hear my friend talking about them like she used to at the beginning, no phone calls talking about how the children are coping; No account of them, no update, nothing at all... Everyone has moved on. They have gotten busy with their own issues and affairs and the twins have now become history if you ask me.
Dwelling upon the situation of the twins reminded me about when my mum died; how family members promised to be there... Some of them said "oh don't worry, we are there for you" Others said... "call on me anytime". And the question I asked myself was, "were they actually there?" Nope! they weren't... Was it a spur of the moment thing, which inspired consoling words? Yes it was... Do I blame them? No I don't... I really don't, cause everyone has got issues and although some might try to be there for you, they won't be there always. Only God will always be there.
As for the little girls, I only and always lift up a prayer to God for their protection, provision and sustenance.
Now my question is, is it that we get too busy with our own issues, that we forget about others, or do we make promises in the heat of the moment and yet forget? Let's hear you out please.
Peace... I'm out!
The thing is people make/say those promises as easy as they'd say 'take heart'. To most people it just seems natural to say "We'll always be here for you" when they are saying "take heart, my dear".ReplyDelete
The one doesn't seem complete without the other and I don't think it registers in their brain self as an obligation they are now tying themselves to
YES, to all your questions. Why? dunno. Such is life.ReplyDelete
Just like @simply mee said, such is life. Life goes on,ReplyDelete
I agree with NollyRe, we sometimes don't get the meaning of our sympathetic words.ReplyDelete
I don't know that people forget. I think its a combination of a lot of things. People just saying soothing words without regard to the responsibility they are taking, people getting busy with their own lives, and sometimes just simple misinterpretation. I know if i say i'm there for you, it doesn't mean i'm gonna be calling you every single day for the rest of your life lol. It means that if you need me, call me and if i'll help any way i can. And when i can, i'll try and reach out too.ReplyDelete
When my dad died it was the same thing. People promised all sorts but I can count the people that actually kept to their words. Most of the people that were there eventually are people we didn't even expect.ReplyDelete
To answer your question, such is life. People forget. As long as its not them, they'll forget. My own take is that fine, everyone has their lives to live but people should stop promising heaven and earth if they know they may not fulfill their promises. If you promise and even if you forget, whenever you remember, do something. Whether its to call or whether its to give of your time, money, etc. At least that will show the people that you care.
Easier said than done. People forget easily. We are soon overtaken by our own problems and we forget those who need us most.ReplyDelete
This post reminds me of a set of orphaned twins back home.
Is it my eyes or what? Couldn't read some words.
How sad, but that is the reality of life. I have come to realize that most people make promises in the heat of the moment, and then when push comes to shove, they forget. It is better not to promise at all, than to promise, but fail to deliver. Life happens and sometimes, people just act like the human beings which they are. We will always fail others in some way. It is only God who never fails.ReplyDelete
True realities of life. I got so angry when a very close friend came up with lame excuses when i mentioned it was time we visited the baby of the friend i lost last year. Like, how can you not make time?? She was like our sister and if she were here, she would do so much more than i was even suggesting and here we were, less than a year and excuses were flying all around. I was so mad! I think i'm still mad at her sef :(ReplyDelete
*takes a breath* I resolved to do the best i can and just hope for the best. Human's naturally have a short memory
What I tend to do is visit when I can, and then I say 'call me when it's convenient for you, or when you need something.' That way I feel I'm not turning up at the wrong time.ReplyDelete
Reality is,YOu Are alone,I was Promised a trip to Mars when i lost my Dad.. I dont even own a space suit,they haven`t even noticed i moved out the country. Bottom line,YOU ARE ALONE.ReplyDelete